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We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns.
- National Competition on Worries! - National Competition on Worries!
Let me introduce our today's guests.
The handsome guy, Son Ho Young.
(Singer Son Ho Young)
Um Ji and Eun Ha of GFriend.
(Um Ji and Eun Ha of GFriend)
I thought he was one of the members of GFriend.
(A new member of GFriend?)
Singer Jang Moon Vok!
(Singer Jang Moon Vok)
- Moon Vok has great hair. - He does, indeed.
- May I... - What's your secret?
- May I touch it? - Sure.
Some people think I'm a woman...
- when they see me from behind. - My goodness.
Even when you see his face,
he looks like a tough girl.
- A tough girl. - A girl with a temper.
- He looks like a party girl. - He looks like an old lady too.
Stop touching his hair already.
- It's hard to have such nice hair. - Exactly.
GFriend released an exciting song...
that will help people beat the heat.
- Please show us. - Okay.
(We want to see your dance.)
("Love Whisper" by GFriend)
(The powerful dance part begins.)
(We want to go on a vacation with GFriend.)
Way to go!
(She almost hit him.)
(She doesn't care because her performance is important.)
(GFriend's refreshing song makes you listen to carefully.)
That was awesome!
Ho Young, do you have any worries?
- I'm famous for my smile. - That's right.
- It became my public image. - You always...
- smile brightly. - You smile like a baby.
It was good when I was younger,
but it has negative effects now.
- I understand. - Do you feel pressured...
- to keep smiling no matter what? - Yes, I do.
- I see. - That can be hard sometimes.
One time, I was sleeping lightly.
I felt that someone was watching me, so I smiled.
- Exactly. - I understand.
Whenever I talk seriously,
people think something's wrong with me.
I have no choice.
What kind of worries do we have? Show us the keywords please.
- "Time To Say Goodbye". - "Time To Say Goodbye".
- "The Marriage Fraud"? - "Please Save My Son"?
"Time To Say Goodbye".
Our staff asked me to read this in Daegu dialect.
I didn't know there was Daegu dialect.
I'm from Daegu too.
- You are? - Yes, I am.
Is Busan dialect different from Daegu dialect?
- It's a little different. - Just a little.
How do you say, "Hello"?
When I talk with my friends, I say, "Hey, you're here."
- I speak like this. - What about Busan dialect?
"Hey, you're here."
- That's ridiculous. - What was that?
- What was that? - He's no better than me.
"Hey, you're here."
Hello. I'm a married woman in my 30s from Daegu.
My husband's excessive affection...
gives me hard times.
"Gosh. You look gorgeous from any angles."
My husband is so affectionate.
It's his car that he loves.
Not his wife?
The phone rings. "Honey."
"You must've finished your work. Why aren't you coming home?"
I'm at the parking lot so I can catch anyone who damages my car.
- He's afraid of a car door hit... - Instead of going home?
You know what a car door hit means, right?
- Your car door hits another car. - When you open your car door...
Poking.
(What an unfortunate incident.)
It's almost impossible for my family to eat out.
"Honey, there's an empty spot. We can park over there."
"No, no, no."
"I can't park my car between other cars."
"Until the spot with no cars around it is empty,"
"I won't move my car."
- That's unbelievable. - "Just wait, okay?"
He's afraid someone might hit his car with the car door.
That's right. How can I make him...
say goodbye to his car?
(Please help me make my husband say goodbye to his car.)
She's worried about her husband who loves his car more than his family.
Let's meet her. Please come out.
(Rhythmical and powerful)
(Kim Hyo Jin)
Hello.
Please be careful.
Please introduce yourself.
Hello. I'm a mom of three children.
- I'm from Daegu. - She has a pretty voice.
Is that Daegu dialect?
She has three children?
Please tell us how unusual your husband's affection for his car is.
His car is like a jewel to him.
He watches his car more often than he drives it.
- He watches his car? - Yes.
When it rains or snows,
he doesn't take his car out.
- He keeps it in the parking lot. - He doesn't drive it...
- when it rains. - That's right.
He washes his car for five hours, and he does that often.
It's pointless because he keeps the car in the parking lot.
It seems that he's sensitive about a car door hit.
He doesn't park his car between two other cars.
He finds a spot without any cars on the sides,
or an underground parking lot with surveillance cameras.
He never calls a designated driver, or leaves it in valet parking.
He doesn't let anyone drive his car.
- Is that true? - Yes.
What does he do when he drinks without calling a designated driver?
When he has a drink without a plan,
he parks his car in an underground parking lot,
and walks home.
- He leaves his car there? - Yes.
- My gosh. - He picks up his car the next day.
He never lets his car get wet in rain.
What if it starts to rain while he's driving?
He find a parking lot immediately.
- Wherever he is? - He just parks his car?
- Yes, he does. - I see.
(It's hard to believe.)
It might be an expensive car,
or a rare car called antique car.
- It might be a brand new car. - Right.
- Is that the case? - No.
- That's not the case? - No.
It's not an expensive car, and it's a 2011 model.
It's not even a brand new car.
- It's 7 years old, right? - It's 7 years old.
- It's seven years old. - It looks like a brand new car.
Let's see the photos of his car.
- He managed his car so well. - It's so clean.
- It's shiny. - Is that really seven years old?
- Look how shiny it is. - He managed it so well.
- It looks so clean. - He managed it so well.
- Awesome. - Look at that.
- It's clean. - It's so clean.
Is it really seven years old?
That's awesome.
That car didn't get rained on many times, right?
That's right. He never lets that happen.
In fact, men tends to like cars.
Can't you understand him even though it's too much?
He gives me such hard times.
I have 2 sons who are 7 and 8 and a 3-year-old daughter.
- You have a daughter too? - Yes.
When we eat out,
until he finds a parking spot that he likes,
we have to wait on the side of the street.
You can take your children in the restaurant without him.
In many cases, he doesn't come in.
He doesn't come in...
- even until you finish eating? - He doesn't come in.
My children throw a tantrum, cry, and everything.
So I end up ordering the food to go.
Does he not allow your children to eat cookies in his car?
No, he doesn't.
Cookies taste so good when eating in a car.
That's the fun of driving.
Car accidents happen unexpectedly.
A minor car accident could happen.
Has he never had a car accident?
- He had an accident once. - Once?
- Was it a minor accident? - It must've been a big problem.
We went to a hospital because our child was sick.
He looked around his car, and became furious.
He found a slight damage on his car door.
He suspected the car next to him, but the driver denied it.
He checked the security footage of the parking lot in the end.
- When his child was sick? - Yes.
He couldn't find proof from the security footage.
He called someone from the insurance company.
He reenacted the situation.
He left his sick child in the car for hours,
and made our child get on and off the car.
The person from the insurance company said he's unbelievable.
He caught the culprit.
- He caught the culprit? - He did?
- Yes, he did. - Was it the car next to him?
Yes, it was.
The driver of that car was very unlucky.
- Exactly. - He was very unlucky.
(It's too much.)
He says using the air conditioner on hot summer days...
- makes the car smell bad. - That's right.
Therefore, when he's almost at the destination,
he turns on the heater 20 minutes before the arrival.
- What? - 20 minutes before the arrival?
- He wants to dry his car. - He turns on the heater in summer?
- Yes. - With your children in the car?
Yes. Our children sweat a lot,
- but he tells them to endure it. - It's hotter inside of as car...
than the outside because it's heated inside.
- That's right. - He turns on the heater?
- Yes. - Can't you open the window?
- No. He never allows it. - What?
He wants to dry out the inside of the car.
- Why does he not allow it? - He wants to dry out the inside.
- He wants to dry out the inside? - He wants it completely dry.
He doesn't care about his family.
(Oh, my goodness.)
Exactly.
It can be dangerous for children.
- Of course. - It can be very dangerous.
He doesn't even allow them to open the window.
(The more we hear about him, the more he shocks us.)
Let's ask her about that.
How long has he been so affectionate for his car?
We dated for eight years before marriage,
and have been married for seven years.
They dated for eight years.
He was a member of a car club when we were dating.
He left me alone in his car,
and talked about cars with the club members for a couple of hours.
- Leaving you alone in the car? - Yes.
- He was... - Why did you marry him?
Why did you even date him?
- He should've married his car. - I thought he liked cars.
You didn't know it would be this serious?
Back then, I thought he liked a certain car brand...
because the club was about a certain car brand.
- You thought he liked the brand? - Yes.
If he cares that much about his car...
You dated him for eight years.
- In his car... - What are you trying to ask her?
You know people do that in a car... Never mind.
(What is he talking about?)
- Why would you ask that? - Hold on a second.
- That was inappropriate. - I think...
Did you understand his question?
- Yes, I did. - Wait. She'll answer your question.
- What does she think he meant? - Just wait. Be patient.
- Okay. I believe her. - Please answer the question.
It's not allowed.
- What do you mean? - "It's not allowed."
- What are you talking about? - What do you mean?
What do you mean?
What did I ask you about? What is not allowed?
Your face turned red.
(Laughing)
Let's meet with her husband who is in love with his car.
Hello, Hyo Jin's husband.
Hello.
Do you like cars that much?
I love my car.
What do you think about your wife's worry?
Sometimes, it's over the top,
but I want to keep my car clean.
I understand everything else,
but using the heater for 20 minutes with your kids in the car...
- That's not understandable. - is just...
- It's just weird. - It's not reasonable.
- It sounds suffocating. - It's not like they're in a sauna.
I heard you do that to dry your car.
- Your children look so skinny. - They're skinny.
- That's right. - Look at them.
Especially their legs.
- They look so tired. - Why do you do that?
The car smells bad...
because of the air conditioner, so I want to prevent it.
You could turn it on after your children get off.
If I do that, I would have to keep the engine running.
- You don't want to waste gas? - In fact, the air conditioner...
causes a bad smell.
There are good car air freshener.
If you use a car vent clip,
- That's right. - it helps to reduce the odor.
- There are many good products. - I don't use air freshener...
for our children's health.
(What did you say?)
- Using the heater is worse! - Why would you...
- turn the heater on? - You care about their health?
You keep the heater on.
Do you prefer the heater or your children?
I prefer my children.
Then you shouldn't turn the heater on.
I'll try.
Your affection for your car is unusual.
Is there any reason for that?
As for the reason I like cars, I've been interested in...
all kinds of cars since I was little.
I majored in a car related field in high school and college.
You majored in that field?
Is your occupation related cars too?
I was also a vehicle mechanic in the military.
- Really? - Yes, and now...
I'm working as a mechanic at a repair shop.
- You're working in that field. - Yes, I am.
I bought my car after I got married.
I think that's why it's more special to me.
If you know a lot about cars,
you must know that they're meant to be driven.
Don't you think that this is out of line?
How often do you use it on a monthly basis?
It's the rainy season now, so I haven't used it for about two weeks.
He never drives it when it rains.
She said that if it starts to rain,
you have to park the car in any building you see.
I always check the weather first thing in the morning.
- If it might rain, I don't use it. - You don't use the car that day.
If it gets wet in the rain, you can just wipe it.
Aren't I right? Why is it so bad to get rained on?
If it gets rained on, I have to spend five hours to clean it.
- How do you clean the car? - Exactly.
- Ask him. - Why does it take five hours?
As for inside the car,
I have to shake everything off to make sure it's perfectly clean.
It takes me about two hours just to clean the inside.
- Just the inside? - Do you vacuum everything?
Yes, I shake everything off too.
He'll pass out if he sees my car.
And...
the exterior needs to be washed with water and soap,
then polished with a wax to finish off.
- Also... - Did you say you polish it...
- with a wax at the end? - That's right.
- Every single time it's washed? - Yes.
Polishing the car after washing it...
- It's not easy to do. - every time...
- is very uncommon. - And it's not necessary.
Exactly. Even women don't get waxed that often.
I get waxed only once a month.
That's not what we're talking about!
We're not talking about that.
It's not like hair grows on his car.
I was just using it as an example.
Just doing that takes a lot of time...
because my car washing method is a bit different.
I divide the car into top, middle, and bottom parts...
- when I clean it. - I see.
It helps preventing scratches.
Does that mean you clean the underside too?
- Underneath the car. - Yes.
- No way. - You do?
I even clean behind the tires.
- You clean the whole underside. - Yes.
Behind the tires?
- My gosh. - Are you talking about this area?
- Yes, the inner side. - The inner side.
Why do you wipe that area? I really don't get it.
That area becomes visible when the steering wheel is turned.
- When the wheels are turned? - How meticulous.
That's right.
I guess you never go for an automatic wash.
- Right, I never do that. - If that's the case...
What I don't understand is...
We heard that when your son had to be taken into an emergency room,
you left your kids alone for hours because of a scratch on your car...
- that wasn't even really visible. - For about three hours.
- Don't you think it sounds strange? - That I really don't understand.
Do you sort of lose your mind?
Yes, I completely lose it.
To the point that you forget all else?
- When you notice the scratch? - Yes.
I don't think about the consequences.
- Then... - Let's say that your son is sick.
He has to be taken into an emergency room,
but it's raining hard outside. What will you do?
We can take a taxi.
- No taxis are available. - Seriously?
- Gosh. - If it's really an emergency,
we can call 911.
(I'll call 911.)
Let's say they have no ambulances available.
- They can't send you an ambulance. - And you can't get a taxi either.
My wife has a car too.
- She has her own car? - Your wife's car?
- Do you have your own car? - Yes, I do.
He doesn't cherish it like he does with his?
- No. - Pardon me?
Does he only cherish his car?
- He doesn't clean your car for you? - My gosh.
My car is a 2003 model.
- It's about to get scrapped. - That means it's 14 years old.
- Does it still work? - If it's a 2003 model,
- Can it be driven? - it must be...
- It's 14 years old. - Yes.
- When it rains and such, - He has no choice.
he takes my car keys and just uses it.
- Your car? - Yes, he takes my car.
- How do you get around, then? - Because he can't use his car?
- "Give me the keys. It's raining." - I also...
- I also work. - That's so mean.
I have a job, and I also have to attend events at my sons' daycare.
If he just leaves with my car keys,
- when my sons are sick, - Gosh, this is a serious worry.
- I have to take a taxi. - Then...
- Then you should just... - Just use your husband's car.
Yes, eye for an eye.
- I've done it. - Really?
- What happened? - That was when...
my son wasn't even 100 days old. He was burning up with high fever.
- You must've been scared. - It can be dangerous.
- Fevers can be serious. - I saw his car keys,
and I took them without even asking him.
- So what happened? - What happened?
The bumper...
- Did you damage it? - Yes.
- Because you were flustered. - It fell off.
- It fell off? - Yes, it did.
He went on about it and kept sighing for six months after it happened.
- For six months? - He rarely smiled.
We've been laughing and talking about it jokingly,
but when Chan Woo asked him what he'd do...
if one of your children gets sick when it's raining outside...
Any dad would've said, "I'll use the car, of course."
But your husband was like, "I'll take a taxi, call 911,"
"or use my wife's car."
- Exactly. - I can't believe he can think that.
- It means his priority is his car, - That's right.
- not his family. - Here's another example.
Let's say your son fell and is bleeding badly.
Will you call 911 even in a situation like that?
Can't you just take your son to a hospital in your car?
- Will you take a taxi? - If it's not raining...
(Everyone is furious.)
- Why does that matter? - Your son is bleeding.
You'll think that way even when it's an emergency?
Does your car bleed when it gets rained on?
My gosh, I hate that you can think that way.
- How can he think like that? - I want to scratch your car.
- When you drive... - I want to open my car door...
- into his car and scratch it. - Let's say you arrived.
You brought your kids to a hospital due to an emergency,
but someone scratched your car or bumped into your car right there.
Your kids need to be treated though.
(Glaring)
(Sighing)
We don't even need to hear his answer.
- Well... - Are you actually hesitating?
I can't stand him. I've never felt this way about anyone.
If I ever see his car, I'll bump into it intentionally like this.
He obviously puts his car before you or your children.
I'm sure there were other times he hurt your feelings.
One day, my second son fell while riding his kickboard.
The skin on his forehead ripped to the point that the bone was showing.
- His forehead? - He must've fallen hard.
I couldn't stop the bleeding, so I called an ambulance.
I have three kids, so I took all of them. I called my husband,
and he said he'd come. So I took my kids to an emergency room,
but he never came.
- Why? - What was his reason?
- He has an office job, - I see.
but he had to help someone fix a car on site. He only showed up...
after fixing the car. My son had already gotten his stitches then.
Was it something that he didn't have to do?
That's right. He doesn't work on site, so he didn't have to do that.
- He did someone else's job. - Why did you do that?
- You didn't have to do that. - What was the reason?
- Well... - Hold on, please.
I'll ask other dads. Chan Woo and Dong Yeob,
let's say you got a call during a shoot about your kid's injury.
- We have to finish the shoot. - We can't just leave.
- It wasn't an appropriate example. - All right.
- That's our job, you know. - Okay.
- It'd be irresponsible to leave. - All right, then.
- If we're out... - If we're having a team dinner...
- or out with other people... - We'd go, of course.
- I'd definitely leave. - We have to.
- You'd leave right away. - No matter what.
Sir, you have an office job.
You went to the site only because you wanted to.
One of your kids hurt his forehead,
and your wife had to look after the other two.
You should've left right away.
When she called, she said that they were about to leave with 911.
Even if I was there, my kid...
There wasn't really anything I could do for him.
- Sorry? - Come again?
Having you by his side would've meant a lot to him.
- I didn't think about that. - That's like saying...
Let's say your wife is about to give birth.
"Honey, the baby will come out in any second."
"Okay. You have your doctor and nurses there."
- "There's nothing I can do." - "You don't need me, right?"
- He's really something. - He just doesn't get it.
Everyone around us knows about his obsession with cars.
When their car breaks or when they have to buy used cars,
they call my husband.
When it's about cars,
he just takes off even in the middle of playing with the kids.
When my friends or acquaintances ask me for a favor,
I can't really say no.
Does that mean you only say no to your wife?
So far, I've been thinking that she was...
being considerate of me and my needs.
I just thought that she was a very considerate person.
I didn't know she was this stressed out.
Can you please let me drive your car once?
Let's meet on an unpaved road on a rainy day.
- An unpaved road. - That was funny.
- Your friends are here, right? - Yes.
Your acquaintances.
Where are you? Please wave your hand.
- There he is. Hello. - Hello.
- Hello. - Hello.
(He waves his hand in a very unique way.)
How do you know them?
I live in the same apartment building as them,
and I've known them for about two years.
Why do you wave your hand like this?
- Doesn't everyone do this? - Do you work at an amusement park?
- I actually... - "Hello!"
work at an amusement park in Daegu.
(He works at an amusement park.)
- Seriously? - I guess it just comes out.
- I used to go there very often. - I see.
You've heard why she's so stressed out. Can you understand her?
Yes. Our families go out for dinner together once in a while.
When we arrive at a restaurant, he doesn't join us...
until the parking spot he wants becomes available.
Only after he parks, he joins us and eats with us.
There's more. They say the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
- His kids have kickboards. - I see.
These little boys...
- grab wet wipes... - No way.
- and clean them for 20 minutes. - My goodness.
(They clean them for 20 minutes.)
- Do they clean them for 5 hours? - They spend at least 20 minutes.
- Do they do this for five hours? - With wet wipes?
No, for 20 minutes.
(This is how his kids clean their kickboards.)
Gosh, I was dumbfounded when I saw that.
- Are you serious? - That's crazy.
- Let's meet the kids. - They learned it from their dad.
Say hi to us.
- Hi. - Hello.
- Hi. - Hi.
Do you think that your dad likes cars?
What does he likes more between you and his car?
The car.
(The car!)
It's a serious problem if his kids are thinking like that.
Why do you think your dad likes cars?
- I can't believe this. - It must upset you a lot.
You should open the door like this when you're getting off his car.
He's saying he can't.
(I can't do that.)
- He's saying no. - He must be stressed.
Do you hate your dad because he likes his car more than you?
- He probably doesn't hate him. - Right.
- His mom is crying though. - My goodness.
- Right now... - Her son just said...
his dad likes his car more than him.
Why are you crying all of a sudden?
- Did something happen? - My gosh.
My eldest kid saw a counselor recently.
- Did he need someone to talk to? - My other kids are still too young,
so I haven't been able to pay much attention to my eldest son.
- That's understandable. - Geon Woo?
Yes. Whenever his dad goes out,
he cries a lot.
He likes having fun with his dad more than spending time with me.
On the days that his dad comes home late,
- he looks so downcast. - I see.
He must feel anxious.
Yes. I've even seen him looking out from the balcony...
waiting for his dad to come home. We live on one of the lower floors,
so we can spot him outside on his way home.
That's why I had him see the counselor,
and I was told that he's craving his dad's love.
- He's lacking affection. - Is that what the counselor said?
Yes. That's what the counselor told me.
When I told my husband about it, he was like,
"Geon Woo is never like that when he's with me."
"He loves hanging out with me and keeps smiling."
"I'm here for him."
- That's what he said. - He could've said it out of guilt.
- We'll ask him about it. - Okay.
All right. Geon Woo.
- Geon Woo. - Yes.
Are you sleepy?
(Yes, I'm sleepy.)
- He's sleepy. - Your mom told us...
that you waited for your dad on the balcony. Is it true?
- Yes. - Do you want to play with your dad?
(Nodding)
Do you miss him and want to see him all the time?
- Yes. - How adorable. He loves his dad.
All right. Your wife said that she told you about Geon Woo's situation,
but you said that he doesn't behave like that when he's with you.
Yes, that's right.
- The husband is... - Do you think that he's okay?
Compared to other dads, I think I spend a lot of time...
- with my kids. - Who are the other dads?
Compared to most dads,
- I think I spend... - Tae Gyun spends 20 hours.
(Impressed)
No, that's crazy.
(Why are you all doing this to me?)
I'll ask the wife, then. Your husband is saying...
that he spends a lot of time with the kids compared to other dads.
He is a great playmate to the kids.
- Then he's a good dad. - Only when he's home though.
The problem is that he's rarely home.
He has to meet his friends when they call him about cars.
He plays soccer three times a week,
and he also plays foot volleyball and futsal.
- He does all of that? - Yes.
- Futsal? - Foot volleyball and futsal?
(When is he home, then?)
Then when does he play with the kids?
When he's home.
(Scared)
- Then by any chance... - So how often does he stay home...
to play with the kids? On a monthly basis.
- About an hour? - Out of a month?
Sir.
- Yes. - You shouldn't be laughing now.
I also want to hang out with my friends and catch up with them,
but I can't go out because my husband goes out all the time.
- Right. - Of course. You have three kids.
I try to relieve my stress through assembling building blocks.
After the kids fall asleep, I can't even call my husband...
and get mad at him because I don't want my kids to hear me crying.
That's why I focus on building blocks instead.
I don't think about anything else when I'm assembling the blocks.
How many have you assembled so far?
I usually spend six hours at a time.
- You must be bottling up a lot. - One day, I saw that...
and asked myself what I was doing.
It's not productive, you know.
I thought, "Have I been doing this to repress my anger?"
But I kept on doing it, and I've assembled more than 100 so far.
- Oh, my. - My gosh.
You basically made them.
- They are very cute though. - It shows how stressed you've been,
- in a way. - You're very good at it.
- She is. - They embody her resentment.
Such extreme stress is always manifested physically.
- Being stressed out is the worst. - It can wreak havoc on the body.
One day, my stomach was hurting a lot,
but he came home late and went straight to bed.
The pain kept getting worse, and I noticed that I had bloody discharge.
- My gosh. - Goodness.
After sending the kids to the kindergarten in the morning,
I told my husband about it. Then he told me...
to just go see a doctor.
He told me to go alone.
He told me to call him after and left for work.
My gosh, he didn't go with you?
Didn't you get mad at him? You must've been furious.
When I saw myself driving my car and going to the hospital alone...
That's so depressing.
I cried a lot that day.
You should've just let it all out and yelled at him.
You should've asked, "Why are we even together?"
Once, I said to him that we should get divorced.
As I mentioned, my eldest son has been going to the hospital often...
- since he was a toddler. - Geon Woo.
As you can see, he's seven now,
but he's small as he's suffering from growth hormone deficiency.
- He needs an injection every day. - Gosh.
When my husband heard about it,
he cried as soon as he got home.
Even though I hate him, my heart ached for him because he cried.
He gave Geon Woo injections for the first two days.
I was very grateful for that.
But on the third day, because of his car...
Did he go out?
Yes. I tried calling him, but he didn't even pick up.
The injection must be given at a set time.
I have fear of needles, and having to do it on my child was...
- Right. - But I had to do it, you know.
- I have to raise my son. - Goodness.
So I did it, but I was terrified. Geon Woo also saw how scared I was.
The needle got bent when I was trying to give him the injection.
- Gosh... - The two of us cried all night.
- Geon Woo and you? - Yes.
Does your husband do it for you now?
No, I learned how to do it.
Instead of persuading your husband to help you with it,
you learned how to do it yourself?
Yes. I learned how to do it and practiced on plush toys.
You must know what time Geon Woo needs his injections.
Don't you get worried about it when you're not home?
Doesn't it pop up in your mind?
I'm not sure if it was the third day,
but I remember thinking that it should be okay...
to skip a day for the injection.
- I see. - That's what I thought.
That's why my wife and I...
had a disagreement. And when I'm out,
I have fun with friends and not think about anything else.
I also work as you know. That's probably why things came this far.
Then is there anything you do for your wife?
I'm not sure if you know about it, but on every rainy Wednesday,
I buy roses for her.
- I've been doing it... - On every rainy Wednesday?
- Do you give her red roses? - How often does it happen?
- So... - It's something I always do.
- On rainy Wednesdays, - Yes.
you should take her out for a drive.
- Yes, that'd be much better. - You don't need to buy her roses.
She'll like that much better.
Let's ask her.
How do you feel when he gives you roses on rainy Wednesdays?
- I don't feel anything. - Do you want to throw them at him?
- Yes. - What is that, seriously?
- It's not even romantic. - If the situation...
doesn't improve at all, how would you feel?
My patience has its limits too, so I'll probably give up.
I'm worried that my kids might end up feeling the same way.
- That's my biggest worry. - When they're older?
Yes, after some time passes. Right now, he means so much to them.
But with time, they might start feeling like me...
and begin to feel less affectionate toward their dad.
Then my husband will become alienated.
Are there specific things you want from your husband?
I want him to stop being an umbrella for his car.
I always think that he should be an umbrella for his family.
- Please tell him everything. - What about when the kids are sick?
When the kids are sick, I want him to give me his car keys.
- Is that all you want? - You won't ask him to drive?
I want him to give me his car keys.
And when we go out for food with the kids,
I want us to go to a restaurant with a play area and eat together...
no matter what the parking situation is like.
She must've had no idea that she'd end up having to deal...
- with stress from such matters. - Seriously.
Can you do the things that she's asking you to do?
Well, I'll try to find the middle ground.
- What are you talking about now? - She can't compromise anymore.
- What on earth are you saying? - That is crazy.
- What did you mean? - What's the middle ground?
- Can you elaborate? - What's the middle ground?
Well, first of all...
- Gosh. - How can they compromise on this?
By any chance...
- That's not even the point. - Can you speak Korean?
- Even an apology isn't enough. - Do you understand Korean?
Can you speak Korean?
Don't you get it?
Like your wife mentioned,
your kids might become distant from you in the future.
How do you think you'll feel if that happens?
(Flustered)
If they become distant from me...
because of things like this,
I will try to change.
I'll give up on my car if I have to.
- Since you're here today... - We're not asking you to give up.
- Right. - There's nothing to give up.
- A car is just a car. - That's right.
- It's just a vehicle. - It's a mean of transport.
What makes me so sad...
is how he's worshiping his car. I'll give you an example.
When it rains, some people who have expensive designer purses...
get soaked in the rain from protecting their purses like this.
They cherish their purses so much that they get rained on instead.
When a lightning bolt strikes, they don't block it with their purses...
and get hit by it instead because protecting the purse comes first.
- That's what you're doing now. - Exactly.
Then I'll ask you about every request your wife made today.
What will you do when you're eating out?
There's a parking spot, but it's in between cars. There's no CCTV.
What will you do? Your kids are hungry.
Tell us what you'll do.
- I'll park there. - Yes, that's it.
- Good. - That was a good answer.
Then let's say that your kids are...
burning up with a fever suddenly, and your car is right there.
It's raining outside though. What will you do?
Will you let her use your car?
- Yes, I'll do that. - Okay, all right.
- You promised us. - This is really...
- My gosh. - It doesn't deserve applause.
Did you all see her face? Are you seriously touched by that?
- Personally, I... - Gosh, I can't believe this.
(I am touched.)
Is it a worry or not? Press the button if you think it is.
When his kid was sick,
he hesitated. That really disappointed me.
It's sad to watch her wanting things that he should already be doing.
I'd like him to use his car like a car.
I also think that it's a serious problem.
I also think that it's a serious worry.
He injected his son hormone injections for three days.
However, he didn't continue doing it.
That's...
- That's really bad... - My goodness.
when you think about the child's future.
My goodness.
(Crying)
(I feel sad when she cries.)
People will think that there is a story.
You sympathized too much with the story.
- She is sad. - Their story made her sad.
He should take care of his child as often as he washes his car.
Look at him when you say it.
(He is a bad father.)
Members of GFriend, let her use the air conditioner.
Those who haven't watched the program...
from the beginning...
would think that she is the one with a worry.
People would think that you aren't Eun Ha.
- Her heart aches. - She is sad.
That's right. We buy cars...
for our convenience. It doesn't make sense...
to prioritize it over your wife and children.
When you go home, take out a white plate...
and eat about 600g of tenderloin...
with vegetables and kimchi.
Why are you talking about food?
She needs to gain energy.
Please gain energy from food...
to change your husband, take care of your children,
and look after your health.
Make sure you eat tenderloin.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
- In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- Time's up. - Please stop.
Hyo Jin's husband,
say a few words to Hyo Jin.
You have worked really hard to take care of the children...
for seven years. From now on,
I will stop obsessing over cars...
and try to be a better person.
Please wait for me.
Please show us the result.
(The result)
I am sure it will get over 100 votes.
- My goodness. - It got over 100 votes.
199 votes.
(What will be the result?)
Really?
(159 votes)
The title of the next worry is "The Marriage Fraud".
Hello, I am a married man in his 30s who lives in Changwon.
With the height of 170cm and the weight of 50kg,
my wife looked like a doe. I fell for her and married her.
That's pretty impressive.
- She is very slim. - The leader of GFriend is slim,
but she is a bit slimmer.
Why would you say that?
(I am sorry.)
It was a marriage fraud.
After we got married, she came to weigh over 100kg.
(She currently weighs over 100kg.)
It's like having two wives.
(It's like having two wives.)
- It's like having two wives. - Come on.
The moment she wakes up,
she eats, eats, eats, and eats.
- That's incredible. - She eats 10 ice cream a day.
(She eats 10 ice cream a day.)
She eats 10 sweet potatoes in a sitting.
She eats a lot.
She eats 10 sweet potatoes in a sitting.
There is a bigger problem.
"Honey, hold my hand."
"What is it?"
"I can't get up on my own."
My goodness.
She can't get up on her own because she is too heavy.
I want my pretty wife back. Please help me.
That's the worry.
(I want my pretty wife back.)
GFriend, you go on a diet 2 or 3 months...
before the comeback.
- That's right. - Both of us are on a diet.
You asked if I have eaten 10 sweet potatoes.
For a year after we debuted,
we weren't allowed to eat rice.
We would cook sweet potatoes at night...
- and eat 10 of them at a time. - We would eat them.
- We did that once. - I see.
(It's hard to be on a diet.)
It's a worry sent by a husband. Please come on out.
(Whose worry involves a wife who doubled in weight?)
Hello.
(Kim Tae Ju)
(Falling)
You say that your wife now weighs over 100kg.
Did she gain weight little by little...
or at once?
After we got married, she gained weight little by little and at once.
"Little by little and at once".
(Check it out.)
My wife majored in physical education.
- She worked out. - Yes.
My wife majored in physical education.
She had the weight of 50kg and the height of 170cm.
She must have gained weight after she had a child.
- No, she didn't. - No?
She gained weight because she ate a lot.
(She gained weight because she ate a lot.)
She eats twice as much food now.
(She is no longer pretty.)
Your spouse can gain weight.
It's not much of a worry.
She gained too much weight.
To be honest, I don't care about a beautiful face.
- You care about a beautiful body. - Yes.
You married your wife...
because of her beautiful body.
It accounted for the 90 percent of my decision.
(He decided to marry her because of her beautiful body.)
Now that she gained weight, I feel like I have been fooled.
I feel like I am in the marriage fraud.
Your trust is broken.
It is broken into pieces.
"It is broken into pieces."
How much does she eat? subtitles ripped and synced by riri13
Does she spend every moment of her waking hours to eat?
- She eats 10 ice cream a day. - When you say ice cream,
do you mean a bar or a cone?
- Of course he does. - Is that what you mean?
It's impossible to eat 10 cartons of ice cream a day.
Even I can eat 10 ice cream bars a day.
- What? - I can do that.
Then what did you mean by 10 ice cream?
- No way. - 10 cartons of ice cream.
10 cartons of ice cream?
(That's incredible.)
Are you serious?
The entire family usually shares a carton of ice cream.
- She finishes them all. - Really?
(Kim Joon Hyun would approve of her.)
- 10 cartons of ice cream. - That's incredible.
What else does she eat?
She ordered a box of sweet potatoes...
to go on the sweet potato diet.
(She wanted to go on a diet.)
Then she should eat sweet potatoes only.
She eats both the sweet potatoes and meals.
(She eats both the sweet potatoes and meals.)
- That's how she eats them. - The meals are like desserts.
Sweet potatoes are her staple and meals are her snacks.
What's worse is that she runs a convenience store.
Does she run a convenience store?
The she will eat the entire convenience store.
(It's the perfect condition to gain weight.)
She brings food that has expired.
The food that has freshly expired.
Yes. She eats everything.
It would have been nice if you had made her work out...
or offered to work out with her.
- That's right. - I did that.
I told her to lose weight. I like to work out.
It seems that way. He has a nice body.
Look at this.
(Touching)
He has a nice body.
(He has a nice body.)
- What happened? - She didn't work out.
After that, I want to make her eat less.
I asked her to stop eating snacks.
She agreed to it.
When I came home after work,
I found that she had hidden snacks.
- She had hidden snacks. - Yes.
She said she didn't eat them, so I said, "Don't lie. You did."
Then she told me that she ate them.
"Lose weight, you pig."
(Shocked)
I was so angry.
What did you say?
Pigs around the nation will rise.
(Pigs around the nation, rise.)
You wanted to shock her.
Most women would have gotten angry...
like Yeong Ja did...
or cried.
She said, "Then meet a skinny woman."
- "Then meet a skinny woman." - She is cool.
She got mad at me.
- She is cool. - It's frustrating.
Let's take a look at her pictures...
- before the wedding. - I bet she is pretty.
My goodness.
She is pretty.
Your face changed, too.
- Your face changed, too. - I got older.
She has a nice figure.
- How pretty! - They are a beautiful couple.
You lost weight, right?
She had the height of 170cm and the weight of 50kg.
(She is pretty.)
Let's meet Tae Ju's wife. Hello.
(What does Tae Ju's pretty wife look like now?)
- Hello. - Hello.
Would you please tell us how much you weigh?
I weigh 105kg.
When did you weigh yourself?
The day before yesterday.
He says that the marriage is a fraud.
- Yes. - How does that make you feel?
When I was skinny, he called me his doe.
Now, he always calls me...
a pig.
- He calls you a pig. - It's a bit annoying.
Why do you think you gained weight?
I came to weigh 70kg when I was pregnant with my first child.
Then I gained some more weight.
I would get so hungry after breastfeeding the baby...
that I ate in the balcony to avoid my husband's watch.
I ate a box of Choco Pie.
- You ate the entire box. - You ate the entire box.
Choco Pie.
I love eating.
I understand.
I also have a great personality.
Because of that,
I don't mind it when people call me fat.
She does seem to have a great personality.
- You seem to be optimistic. - Yes, I am.
Isn't it uncomfortable...
to gain weight in such a short amount of time?
- I am out of breath when I walk. - That's right.
- My feet hurt a lot. - That's right.
My back also hurts.
Gaining weight hurts your back.
My second child is three years old.
I have to hold him constantly, but it's impossible.
(What should I do?)
Our original plan was to ask the son about his mom,
but he is sound asleep.
(He is dreaming.)
Please don't wake him up.
He is sound asleep.
- He is asleep. - He is sleeping in a manly way.
(How cute!)
(He is sleeping in a manly way.)
It looks like he is inhaling all the air in the studio.
(They will have to wait for the interview.)
All right.
He told us that you eat 10 cartons of ice cream.
That's an exaggeration.
I mix it with shaved ice.
How many cartons do you eat?
I eat about five cartons.
You eat that much in one sitting.
Why do you eat them alone?
What about the sweet potatoes?
I bought them to go on the one-food diet.
- The one-food diet. - I eat them without thinking.
- When you eat sweet potatoes, - They are sweet.
do you eat kimchi as well?
(The thought makes her mouth water.)
Yes, I eat them with water kimchi.
Water kimchi.
- Dongchimi is good. - That sounds delicious.
Moreover, her job puts wings on her bad habit.
She runs a convenience store.
That's right.
It has been over 10 years...
- since I ran it. - You ran it for many years.
When I was young, I didn't eat expired food.
Now, I feel like it's a waste.
- You eat them all. - Yes, I eat them all.
Do you only eat expired food?
New products come in every day.
I have to taste every single one of them.
- You eat the products, too. - Yes.
It doesn't influence the sales, right?
Gosh, it does.
(Gosh, it does.)
(She doesn't take it seriously.)
My goodness.
- "Gosh, it does." - Yes.
I bet it does.
I have an inventory check once every three months.
It tells me that I have lost 3,000 dollars.
I eat 1,000 dollars' worth of food in a month.
(She eats 1,000 dollars' worth of food in a month.)
- 1,000 dollars a month. - My goodness.
You eat 1,000 dollars' worth of food in a month.
- It seems that way. - She eats a lot.
That's 12,000 a year. She ran the store for 10 years.
That means she ate 120,000 dollars' worth of food.
If you weren't the owner of the convenience store,
you would have been hesitant to spend that much money on food.
Perhaps you eat food at the convenience store often...
because you think it's not much of a loss.
I think you are right.
I knew it.
- She spend 120,000 dollars. - All of us are laughing,
but Tae Ju's face hardened.
(Disappointed and upset)
Did you know that she eats food at the convenience store?
I didn't know until today.
How does that make you feel?
Bad.
(I am frustrated.)
There are a lot of people who exercise to eat more.
- That's right. - Why don't you exercise...
as you eat?
- You used to exercise. - It's related to your major.
It's embarrassing, but I majored in physical education.
In the past, I worked as a swim coach.
- Swimming is a good exercise. - I also worked as a trainer...
and ski instructor. I used to exercise a lot...
because I liked it. However...
You don't want to move.
No. My body is too heavy.
- I don't want to move. - You don't want to lose weight.
I have tried juice cleanse,
detox diet,
and cycling.
- I bet you spent a lot of money. - I bought machines, too.
How much money did you spend on a diet?
I must have spent about 10,000 dollars.
- 10,000 dollars. - Yes.
I have tried herbal medicines and Western medicines.
People say that Western medicines...
- make you lose appetite. - They make you lose appetite.
- Did they stimulate your appetite? - I took those medicines,
but they didn't have an effect on me.
Some people find appetite suppressants tasty.
They do. That's why I ended up spending a lot of money.
You must have known about the money...
she spent.
This is my first time hearing about it.
My goodness. He must be upset.
I am not asking for much.
It would be nice if she weighs 70kg.
I love to drink and smoke.
I told her that I will go clean if she loses her weight until 70kg.
It's a good deal.
It's nice.
- I hate that she is overweight. - It's a good deal.
You only have to weigh 70kg.
I want to lose weight and put him in his place.
- However, it's hard. - Listen.
When we eat together, I can feel his eyes on me.
"Are you going to eat that? Are you going to eat more?"
When he asks those questions, I want to eat more.
- Even if I only wanted to eat one, - That's understandable.
- I take more. - You want to do the opposite.
Tae Ju's attempt to shock his wife seemed to have the negative effect.
- It's possible. - When she eats in hiding,
she eats a lot in short amount of time.
It must have helped her gain weight.
(Agitating his wife doesn't work.)
Have you tried encouraging your wife...
to lose weight?
I spoke to her gently in the beginning.
- What did you say? - "Lose weight."
- I said that. - That's very gentle.
- "Lose weight." - What happened?
She didn't listen. She only said that she will.
What makes me angry is that...
she likes to throw a party.
- Your wife likes that. - Yes.
She invites everyone she knows to the house and cooks for them.
She is a good cook.
- She is a good cook. - She can cook delicious dishes...
- because she has eaten them. - People who are overweight...
can usually make delicious dishes.
Her bad habits have wings as well as a jet engine.
Seriously.
How many times in a week does she throw a party?
About 2 or 3 times.
- 2 or 3 times a week? - That's a lot.
That's a lot.
Does she throw a party to meet people...
or to eat tasty food?
- I think it's both. - It's both.
It's both.
What do you cook for your guests?
I make chili japchae.
- Chili japchae. - That's hard to make.
I fry chicken, too.
Do you fry chicken at home?
- Only a good cook can do that. - She has a machine at home.
- What does she have? - She has a frying machine.
- She has a frying machine at home. - That's incredible.
(I want to go to this party.)
- What else do you make? - Seasoned marsh snails.
- I also make yukhoe. - Amazing.
I want to go to her party.
It sounds like an amazing party.
(You can come over.)
It seems like your friends are here.
- Hello. - Hello.
Hello.
Who do you think is the problem, the husband or the wife?
My friend's husband has been working out diligently...
even after the wedding.
My friend always throws a party to eat and drink.
She is still gaining weight.
- She is still gaining weight. - Yes. Her friends and families...
are so worried that they push her...
and swear at her.
She just says, "What should I do?" She laughs.
(I love eating the most.)
How are you related to Tae Ju's wife?
I am her friend's husband.
You are her friend's husband.
What are your thoughts on the worry?
I understand Tae Ju's worry.
- That's right. - When there is a party,
Tae Ju cleans up afterwards.
She doesn't move.
- Do you clean up? - Yes.
It's the same with chores. She cooks,
but I do everything else.
She doesn't clean the house.
I doubt she knows where the recycling bin is.
You shouldn't do the chores.
- You shouldn't do the chores. - You keep doing the work for her.
If I don't do the chores, the house will become messier.
It's will be a pigsty.
- I see that she doesn't move. - At home,
doesn't she move much?
She doesn't move much. She asks me to get her water...
and other things.
When I ask her to clean up the house,
she says, "I know you will clean up."
It became a habit.
When Tae Ju first talked about...
how much weight you gained,
I didn't understand why he was so worried.
However, listening to him...
makes me realize that Tae Ju's wife strays from the norm.
Why do you make your husband do all the chores?
Because I gained weight,
I can't move fast. I have always been slow, too.
If he leaves them, I would clean up eventually.
- Sure. - I would clean up eventually.
(This is frustrating.)
For how many years have you been married?
- 2 years. - 2 years.
- Yes. - Let's say that your wife...
comes to weigh twice as much.
How would that make you feel?
When we walk on the street, I would put some distance.
- Really? - Yes.
(She would still be the woman you love.)
- Yes. - She glared at you.
She did that right away.
What do you do when you are outside with her?
I pass by her as if she is a stranger.
- You walk away. - Yes.
It's not because she is overweight.
Men from Gyeongsang Province are like that.
- Everyone says that. - My goodness.
They do that outside.
Being from Gyeongsang Province could be a part of it.
Still, do you feel embarrassed?
Yes, I do.
(There are times he is embarrassed by his wife.)
Does he still show...
- physical affection? - I love physical affection.
When I touch him,
he says, "You pig, come back after you lose weight."
He won't even hold my hand.
- Does it hurt... - Yes.
- your feelings? - It hurts my feelings a lot.
What do you want to say? Wait a minute.
- What do you want to say? - Her friend wants to say something.
Those words don't hurt her feelings.
Most women would lose weight when they hear those words.
Even when her friends say something similar,
she only says, "What should I do?" She just laughs.
When was the last time he showed physical affection?
- I don't remember. - My goodness.
He doesn't like it.
You could show her physical affection.
Don't you want to because she gained weight?
I am not very fond of physical affection.
I don't like it.
- Really? - Yes.
Did you not like it when she was skinny?
I didn't like it back then,
but I did it because she was skinny.
When I drink,
I become physically affectionate...
because she looks skinny.
That happens when you are drunk.
She makes me drink.
- She does it on purpose. - She wants physical affection.
Yes. She doesn't even attempt to lose weight.
She only makes me drink for physical affection.
It's a hassle.
(I become shocked when I sober up.)
You say you don't show physical affection,
but you still had the second child.
That's right.
Did you drink five bottles of soju?
About two years ago,
I made her work out.
- What happened? - I am not lying when I say this.
She lost 20kg.
- She weighed 80kg. - 80kg.
She lost 20kg.
She looked so pretty...
even when I wasn't drunk.
- That's when it happened. - You had your second child.
We had our second child right away.
I see.
I heard that you once used...
a drastic measure.
One time, we got into a big fight...
and discussed having a divorce.
I said, "We should have a divorce."
"See you at the court tomorrow."
And she agreed on our decision, so I went to the court.
However, she didn't come, so I called her.
When I asked her where she was, she said she was at home.
She was with my mom.
I asked why she was there, and she said she bought duck baeksuk.
She told me to come and eat.
Was the divorce out of the question?
I said okay and went home.
(He said okay and went home to eat.)
So you were...
(It was delicious.)
- That's cute. - You see,
even if you know that your spouse doesn't intend to push through,
you usually get flustered in that situation.
Didn't you get worried at all? What happened?
I didn't think he'd actually go.
I didn't think he was actually going to go there.
He always enjoys my food.
So I thought I needed to feed him my food.
I thought perhaps it could change his mind about divorce.
(I lose.)
But you ended up going home to eat duck baeksuk.
- Yes. - He came right away.
- I went there as fast as I can. - As fast as you can.
- You must love baeksuk. - He must've enjoyed it.
I'm okay with everything.
- But you have to have duck baeksuk. - But I can't stand being hungry.
(It's so easy to stop the divorce, isn't it?)
- It was almost dinner time. - You're just like her.
(Is this the master's secret?)
His wife...
knows all the secrets.
She knows that she just needs to feed him to win him back.
- Yes. - And touch him.
Then there would be no problem at all.
- She's on top of him. - Yes.
You must be worried about your wife's health.
I'm sure.
Obesity causes all kinds of diseases.
I'm worried that she is going to get sick.
Before the shoot, we got her health checked.
Let's watch the video.
(Body composition analysis)
Her skeletal muscles...
take up 29 percent of her body.
That's a little more than the average.
Now, body fat takes up 50 percent of her body.
That means half of her body is comprised of fat.
(Half of her body is fat.)
She needs to lose 36.9kg.
And she needs to lose 36.9kg of fat.
So she needs to lose 36.9kg of pure fat...
to become normal.
The BMI indicates that she is severely obese.
If your BMI is high,
your life can be shortened up to 13 to 14 years.
You should be concerned.
Shouldn't you lose weight for your health? You saw the result.
When I got the health checkup,
the result only said that I am severely obese.
My cholesterol and glucose levels were normal.
I think that's why I didn't feel the need to lose weight.
I just kept eating...
and sleeping.
(She stuck with the fattening diet.)
Tell us what you usually eat.
- What do you eat in the morning? - Every morning at the store...
It's all right. You can tell us.
I put down all kinds of food on the table.
2 burgers, 1 bento box,
one roll of gimbap,
and three triangle gimbap.
- That's your breakfast. - And a cup noodle.
What's next?
I do the same thing for lunch.
I lay out all kinds of food on the table.
- Just like breakfast. - What do you eat?
You have to stop eating expired food at the store.
- If she stops eating those... - That's the biggest cause.
They are all junk food.
If you have a lot of food that needs to be disposed, you'd eat them all.
Your one meal is enough to feed an adult for a day.
- Yes. - Right?
- Yes. - And you eat snacks in between.
You eat lunch. You eat snacks again. You eat dinner.
You eat something again. Then you eat before you go to bed.
You already hit the daily intake of calories with breakfast.
You just have to divide one meal into several meals.
I will try.
You eat food because you think it's a shame to waste them.
You will spend a lot more money...
- on recovering your health. - Yes.
While trying to save this much,
- you are losing a lot of things. - Yes.
(It's sad, but I admit it.)
Don't promise your husband.
If you make a promise in front of everyone here...
and people watching our show, you will feel more pressured.
Why don't you tell her...
- what you want her to do? - Don't tell her to lose 50kg.
- I... - Demand something reasonable.
The day before yesterday, she weighed 105kg.
- Was it the day before yesterday? - Yes.
Then she must weigh 106kg now.
I don't need you to lose a lot of weight.
Just show me that you are trying to lose weight.
(Seeing her trying is enough for him.)
Then I will be a little sweet.
If you lose some weight, I will be sweeter.
So please lose some weight.
He's so confident.
He must have something great.
(Does he have something great?)
All right.
Now...
he asked you to try losing weight.
How much weight do you want to lose?
Since you want me to weigh 70kg,
I will try my best to reach that.
I hope you will...
- talk to me softly. - Right.
I hope you will touch me more.
A research showed that being touchy helps people...
- to lose weight. - Yes.
You should touch violently so that she sheds weight.
I heard you lose weight when you kiss passionately.
- Really? - Kissing isn't that helpful.
Then what's helpful? I will try it.
It's hard to do it alone.
I won't be able to do it for the rest of my life.
(What's the reason?)
You need a coach.
You can't work out alone.
(That's right.)
Let's start with Moon Vok.
I think it's a worry.
Ho Young?
I will vote to cheer her up.
It must be very tough for her.
She keeps smiling.
But I know how that feels.
I smile and pretend that I am okay,
but I still have unresolved feelings inside me.
She has to take it out on something,
and I guess she does it through binge eating.
I hope she realizes that and finds another way to take the stress out.
- Good luck. - Thanks.
GFriend?
I think it's a worry.
But the problem will be solved if she changes little by little.
- Good luck. - Good luck.
If you sympathize with him, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- Stop. - Stop.
What do you want to say to your husband?
Honey.
I will try to lose weight until I reach 70kg.
I will try my best to take care of the family well too.
I love you.
All right. Let's see how many votes he got.
(The result)
"The Marriage Fraud".
The last digit is nine.
The other story got 159 votes.
Is it over 159?
It's 99.
(He got 99 votes.)
This lady says her life has been miserable.
Hello. I am a mother who just turned 60.
As if there's a stone on my chest, I feel frustrated every day.
I get upset and teary.
It's because of my son.
"Mom, I want to drop out of college."
"Why do you say that so suddenly?"
"Finally, I found my calling. I am going to be an actor."
He dropped out of college saying he wants to be an actor.
"Mom, I need 10,000 dollars for my acting lessons".
- "You're going to pay, right?" - Where is that?
"Mom, it costs 4,000 dollars to get the pictures taken."
"You're going to pay for it, right?"
- 4,000 dollars? - I am not a money-making machine.
It's been so tough to support my son.
But there was a bigger problem.
"Mom, to become an actor,"
"I need to go under the knife."
"I want to make my eyes bigger."
"What are you talking about? Your eyes are so lovely. No."
"My eyes need to be bigger for me to look good on screen."
"I'm going to do it. Please. Please let me do it!"
"All right. Okay."
So he got his eyes done.
"What's this? Am I a monster?"
"My eyes are ruined. My life is ruined."
"What's the use of going on like this?"
"I'm doomed."
What is that? What was that?
Why are you so bad at acting?
This is too difficult.
After the surgery,
my son is living as if he's given up his life.
I am worried that he will continue to live like an invalid.
Please help him.
(Please save my son.)
- Let's bring her in. - Please come on out.
(Who's the lady worried about her son?)
(Baek Gyu Ri)
(She's young.)
Please introduce yourself.
- She must be nervous. - I am...
from Eumseong, North Chungcheong Province.
I turned 60 years old this year, and my name is Baek Gyu Ri.
Please have some water.
(She's nervous.)
(She drinks it as if it's alcohol.)
- You must like drinking alcohol. - Right.
- I can't drink. - Really?
You must run a small convenience store too.
- No. - Hey.
(It's funny.)
During the pre-shoot interview,
she cried a lot.
- She must be frustrated. - Yes.
Tell us how your son is.
My son is...
- 31 years old now. - He's so young.
One day... That was after he got discharged from the army.
Instead of going back to school, he said he was going to act.
I asked him why he would want to go on that tough path.
He's got no connections or money.
So I told him he should give up.
Then he told me this while crying.
He said he's been wanting to do it since high school.
But he said he couldn't say it because he didn't want to...
give me a hard time and also because we couldn't afford it.
If he goes to college,
I'd have to pay the tuition anyway.
So I thought I would support him.
With the money that would go to his tuition.
(She started supporting him.)
After spending so much money, did he get to make a debut?
No.
We live in the countryside,
so I didn't know anything about the entertainment industry.
We asked people around...
and found a tutor for him.
The tutor was asking 10,000 dollars for 10 months of acting lesson.
Goodness.
- That's 1,000 dollars a month. - So?
So I paid for it.
Since it's 10,000 dollars a month,
why didn't you try out a few months first?
Did you pay everything up front?
No. I didn't pay everything up front.
Later, the tutor asked...
for 4,000 dollars more...
- to get his pictures taken. - The tutor asked.
I was foolish. So I paid the tutor through an installment plan.
- I paid him 4,000 dollars. - Did he get the pictures taken?
- No. - No.
When I heard about it, my son didn't even...
get decent acting lessons.
We haven't gotten the money back.
Did that person encourage him to go under the knife too?
Yes.
- One person did everything. - He must've...
gotten money from the clinic for bringing him in.
He deserves to be locked in a heated car in the summer.
We will stop him from eating snacks inside.
That's what we need to do.
- How much did the surgery cost? - 4,000 dollars?
5,000 dollars.
- 5,000 dollars. - Goodness.
- Is that for enlarging his eyes? - 5,000 dollars for that?
- That's way too much. - It doesn't cost that much.
How much does it cost to get your eyes enlarged?
- People who know the price are... - Is there anyone who's done it?
The ones who know the price are murmuring.
- So... - It must've gone badly.
It didn't go well. So he got another one.
(Oh, dear.)
He ended up having 3 to 4 surgeries.
- He got it done again. - Again and again.
Yes. Because of his eyes,
my son's life is ruined.
(The plastic surgery ruined my son.)
It must've be tough for him too, but it must've been tougher for her.
- Of course. - It'd be twice as tough for her.
It's the worst. I couldn't talk to anyone about it.
At the time, he was in Seoul alone.
Whenever...
he didn't answer my phone,
- Right. - You'd think about all kinds...
of situations that could happen when your family is out of reach.
She was away from him.
I was worried something happened to my son.
You worried if he had done something foolish.
Before we meet her son,
we asked her to bring in the picture of him before the surgery.
Let's see how he used to look.
- He's cute. - He's handsome.
He looked cute.
- His eyes are charming. - Why did he need a surgery?
- Yes. - He's handsome.
- Let's see the after photo. - But...
- It's overdone. - Yes.
It looks unnatural.
Didn't he get an injection underneath his eyes?
- I think he did. - Now that this happened,
he must've given up his dream and closed all doors.
He came here, didn't he?
When I told him that my story got chosen,
he asked why I would want to humiliate him.
I told him I did it because I want him to face the world again...
and I also wanted...
You wanted to unburden the load.
Yes. I told him...
that's why I applied for it.
He said he's okay as long as I am okay with it.
I am sure something good will happen. Let's meet him. Hello.
Hello.
- Welcome. He's wearing sunglasses. - He looks great.
Thank you for coming out here.
You must know that it's been very tough for your mom.
Until I came here,
I didn't know that it's been that tough for her.
Did you think it's been only hard for you?
Yes, I've been thinking that way.
- It won't be easy. - Yes.
Since you mustered up your courage to come out here,
why don't you take off your sunglasses?
- Okay. - Yes.
Cheers!
It's not bad at all.
Your eyes look much better.
They must've settled down.
When I strain my eyes, it's quite all right.
- It's okay if you don't. - It's okay even if you relax.
- It's what you think. - Yes.
Your eyes were cute and lovely.
Why did you decide to go under the knife?
You know that I got a tutor to teach me how to act.
- Yes. - Yes.
When he looked at my eyes,
he said I won't look good on screen with such eyes.
- So... - What does that mean?
Since I was from a countryside,
I was willing to do anything.
I thought it was going to go well.
But the surgery kept failing. My eyes were always swollen.
Did you give up the dream after the surgery went wrong?
No. I didn't give up right away.
I attended acting classes.
I prepared to enter college too.
I got another surgery when I was 25.
I got another one when I was 26.
I got the 3rd one when I was 27.
I got the 4th one when I was 28.
That's when I realized that it wasn't going to work.
What wasn't going to work?
Do you mean you were not going to get the eyes you want?
I liked my eyes before the surgery.
But I only got the surgery to look better on screen.
- Just forget it. - You got multiple surgeries.
Let's take a look at the photos taken after each surgery.
(After the 1st surgery)
(After the 2nd surgery)
It was worst after the 3rd surgery.
So...
his eyes became more and more unnatural.
It's more obvious because of the way the pictures were taken.
- They look a lot more natural now. - He looks much better now.
It looks like he was very much affected by his appearance.
You are the most sensitive about your appearance.
You said your son went out of reach after the surgery when he was...
in Seoul alone, and you were worried. How did it feel?
He didn't answer my calls, and I couldn't reach him.
Sometimes, I visited him with food, and left it outside the door.
- Did he not let you in? - No.
You must've worried that something must've happened to him.
Right. I thought of that...
whenever he was out of reach.
(She was worried that something bad might have happened.)
- Because he's never had a child, - He wouldn't know.
he doesn't know how frustrating and...
- how worried his mum would be. - When your mum came to visit,
were you in the house?
I was in the house.
It's understandable that you were devastated.
- But she went all the way there. - That was too bad.
- Why didn't you open the door? - Right.
I resented her at the time.
I met that person through her.
I needed someone to blame.
I wanted her to see me doing well, but I wasn't doing well.
So I pretended I wasn't there.
Your mom was worried that you'd do something foolish.
Did you ever think about doing something foolish to yourself?
I thought about it twice.
Why did you change your mind?
Every time, she left...
food outside my door.
- Did that change your mind? - Yes.
Whenever I saw that, I realized that I shouldn't be doing this.
(Her love changed his mind.)
I...
- felt sorry. - Right.
So that's what happened.
- Good thing you visited him. - Goodness.
I'm sure there were...
a lot of times when your heart sank.
- There were many times. - At the time.
When I kept calling him, he answered the phone.
He sounded like he was going to die soon.
He sounded really weak. I asked him what was wrong,
and he said he was too sick.
So I called 911 from my house.
- I gave them... - His address.
I gave them his address.
It turned out he was suffering from acute enteritis.
So 911 took him to the hospital.
That happened once.
(She's always worried about her son.)
While you were preparing to become an actor,
you must've had a difficult time earning money.
Did you get different work experiences?
I didn't have a stable job. I only did part-time jobs.
But my mom supported me most of the time.
How thankful you must be.
You must've spent a lot of money.
How much did you spend?
I had to pay for his rent, transportation,
- Living expenses. - tutoring, and other things.
I must've spent more than 50,000 dollars.
Goodness. For five years,
you spent about 50,000 dollars.
Couldn't you earn the living expenses?
I could've done that,
but I took it for granted.
I was thoughtless at the time.
Don't you think you were overprotecting him?
- Right. - I feel sorry to him.
I haven't done much for him.
- Why do you say that? - Why are you sorry to him?
You can tell us everything.
When...
he was young...
- When he was young. - When he was little,
my husband and I got divorced.
- Goodness. - Why are you sorry about that?
So...
You're sorry to him for that.
Yes.
- I felt so sorry to him. - You did everything for him.
I live for my children.
So I thought being there for them was enough, but it wasn't.
- Then... - I think they got hurt a lot.
By the way, how did you...
manage to afford 50,000 dollars?
- I worked. I ran a snack bar. - Okay.
I tried driving a taxi too.
- You drove a taxi too. - She's amazing.
I got a bank loan too.
- I am running a restaurant now. - You run a restaurant.
- Yes. - Do you...
have other plans for your future...
except for trying to become an actor?
Whenever I go to an audition,
I get criticisms about my eyes.
- After the surgery? - Yes.
I came to conclude that I failed because of my eyes.
To put it simply,
you think you can improve your acting skills,
but you can't have your eyes back, so you have low self-esteem,
and think you won't have a chance. Is that it?
That's right.
(He still believes that his eyes are the reason.)
Never be afraid of failing an audition.
It happens to a lot of actors.
How many auditions did you fail?
I failed so many auditions. I can't remember how many.
I don't think failing auditions is his problem.
I think he started off on the wrong foot.
All he did was spend money on the lessons and profile photos.
He focused on the wrong things.
It seems like he has no idea...
how the industry works.
Judging from what I heard so far,
your weakness is the problem, not your face.
Think about this.
She's been financially supporting you for the past five years.
You only received from her when you're a grownup now.
With that weak mind of yours, you can't succeed in doing anything.
That's what worries me.
Even if you choose another career path.
You can't keep supporting him financially forever.
Don't you think so?
I'm not so young anymore. I'm 60 years old now.
It's hard to keep going on like this.
- I have a blood pressure problem. - You have high blood pressure.
I have gastritis and stomach ulcer.
I also had colon adenoma removed. I have many health problems.
I'm taking treatment.
- They're stress-induced diseases. - That's right.
Did you know about her health condition?
(Did you know about her health condition?)
- No, I didn't. - She didn't tell you, did she?
No, she didn't.
It seems like you've always thought of your mother...
like a superhero who is always in good shape.
Is your son still living in Seoul?
No. He moved to my house.
Since then, for the past year,
he's been living like a couch-potato.
(He's still wasting his life.)
- He stays at home all the time. - Yes.
Shouldn't you have scolded him?
I wished I could, but he yelled at me,
- and kicked things. - Your son did?
He even told me not to visit him when he kicked me out of his house.
(He got angry at his mother.)
He was like that. So I couldn't...
What hurt your feelings the most among the things he said to you?
What hurt my feelings the most was...
that I ruined his life.
Gosh.
When he said he would kill himself...
Gosh.
I said we should die together.
Gosh.
(He said thoughtless, irresponsible things.)
My goodness.
- Why did you say that to your mom? - What's wrong with you?
My mom was the only person I could talk to at that time...
because I had cut all ties with everyone I knew.
I didn't mean what I said to her.
I said things I shouldn't have said to her.
That's the worst thing you can say to your parent.
That's right.
Unlike him, I lived with my father only.
My parents got divorced when I was little.
My mother lived in the US.
I lived with my father in Korea.
I was afraid of my father.
So I ran away from home knowing it was wrong.
After I made my debut,
I had a fight with my father one day.
I said horrible things to him even before I noticed.
To my father.
I said he had no right to nag me because he'd done nothing for me.
I knocked over a table in front of him.
I shouldn't have done it. After that,
my father suddenly... He rarely sheds tears.
He shed tears quietly, and that surprised me.
Of course.
I used to be afraid of him so much,
but suddenly he looked so weak,
and all he could do when I was angry...
was shed tears quietly. While watching him like that,
I realized something important.
After that, we improved our relationship greatly.
I think you should reflect on yourself.
(We hope he'll reflect on himself.)
Are you making any effort to change your life?
One day, I looked at myself in the mirror...
and found out that I had a muffin top.
That made me realize...
(She feels guilty.)
I gained 15kg in only 2 months while staying at home.
I told myself to pull myself together.
I started to talk to my mom and visit her restaurant.
Since I was a little child, she's never seen me...
seeing it through whatever I started.
I gave up before I accomplish anything.
The last thing I wanted to do was acting.
I thought I would be ashamed to see her if I give up on this too.
I won't live off my mother anymore.
I'll regain my confidence,
and make a lot of effort.
- You need positive energy. - Okay.
You have to meet many people to improve your acting skills.
The best performance for you now is being locked up in a room.
You need a lot of life experience.
You should learn more than staying at home.
(You're still young. Come out to the world!)
Please tell us your specific resolutions.
"Actually, I saved a lot of money."
- I wish he'd say that. - That would be great.
She's laughing so hard.
- You wanted him to make money. - The thought of it made her happy.
- Of course, it makes her happy. - "Mom, in fact,"
- "I didn't spend all that money." - I could go on a trip.
I won't stay at home anymore. I won't complain to you either.
I will make up to you for hurting your feelings.
I will find my life back, and find my people back.
As for my acting career, please trust me one more time.
I promise I won't let you down again.
Did you save any money? She wants to hear it.
- Tell her that you saved money. - Stop saying that.
I'm afraid he might say,
"This is the last time I ask you to pay my debt."
Do you think it's a worry or not?
As he said he used to think positively,
and he was very confident,
I hope he'll be like that again soon.
Ho Young.
I won't press the button hoping she'll stop worrying.
- Eun Ha. - I don't think it's a worry.
I hope the hard times he went through will be a lesson,
and he'll start afresh.
Um Ji.
I don't think it's a worry either.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- Stop. - Time's up!
When you start something over again,
cold cucumber soup helps.
(Cold cucumber soup is the best!)
- Cold cucumber soup helps you... - It's tasty.
start things over again.
(Yeong Ja's food therapy helps your recovery!)
- Please say a word to your son. - Please say a word to him.
- Tell him yourself. - Son.
We heard a lot of good advice.
Cheer up. I'll have faith in you one more time.
- That's great. - However,
I won't give you any money.
Don't forget that you have your family.
Let's become happy.
- Cheer up. - She's right.
Thank you.
(Don't forget that you have your family.)
All right. Let's see how many votes she got. Please show us the result.
"Please Save My Son".
The last digit is nine for all of today's guests.
- You're right. - Is it over 100?
She got more than 100 votes.
- 109? 119? - It's 109.
- Thank you for coming. - Thank you.
(She got 109 votes.)
"Time to Say Goodbye" is the winner of this week.
We will give the winner the prize money. Congratulations.
Until the day we are all worry-free,
Hello will continue to counsel you.
- Thank you! - Thank you!
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